Should I Stay or Should I Go?

A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can - and Should - be Saved

by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi

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Does your partner do any of the following?

If you keep feeling hurt and frustrated over and over again, this book will sort out the answers to these questions:

Should you stay or should you go?

Every relationship has problems and challenges. But what if the problem isn’t in the relationship, but rather is in your partner? This warm, supportive, straightforward guide offers you a path to evaluating the dynamics of your relationship, so that you can figure out what needs to be done.

You will learn what kinds of work you need to do on yourself, and which pieces are your partner’s to do. Chapter by chapter you will be given the tools to grow toward greater strength and clarity inside yourself. Simultaneously, you will develop the ability to analyze your partner’s behavior and attitudes, to see whether his issues are really the greatest obstacle to harmony.

You will become able, for example, to accurately assess whether:

If, after following the exercises laid out in the book, you find that he does indeed have one (or more) of these four problems, you will be able to follow step-by-step instructions for getting him to the right help for his specific issues, and being able to tell if he’s serious about doing his work and making deep changes.

Making yourself a priority

By following the guidance and exercises in Should I Stay or Should I Go?, you demonstrate to yourself that you matter – that you are your own highest priority, and that you deserve to be well.

The book will guide you toward a happier, more fulfilling life, whether your partner changes or not. If he’s not changing, it will tell you when it’s time to quit and move on, despite the loss of letting go.

If this is the outcome for you, you will have learned a wealth of information and grown in crucial ways that will help ensure that your next relationship is a satisfying one. And if he does get down to business and deal with his issues, you will be in a position to tell whether he’s doing real work or is faking it – and you’ll be strong enough not to settle for tiny little changes.

Whether your current relationship works out or not, you can put yourself on a path that works for you! Here’s how to do it!